STRESS

Using self-care to deal with day-to-day stress and anxiety. Anxiety is generally characterized by constant feelings of tension, worry, and nervousness that can interfere with daily life and living fully. (healthline)

1. Exercise: Deep breathing exercises may help activate our parasympathetic nervous system, which controls the relaxation response.
2. Grounding:
3. Reach out: Spending time with friends and family can offer space to discuss concerns. It can give assurance that there is support system if that is not possible there are other ways to access that support system; joining leisure clubs, volunteering.
4. Mindful Eating – Some of them can be: Salmon, Chamomile, Turmeric, Dark chocolate, Green tea, Chia seed, Citrus fruits
5. Mindful nature walk: Spending time outside may help de-stress
6. Creating boundaries: Avoiding toxicity in relationship by creating boundary especially with people who add to your stress levels- Taking control over your personal life may help reduce stress and protect your mental health.

Addressing Childhood Adversity and Trauma:

It can be a single event or prolonged threats to, and breaches of, the young person’s safety, security, trust or
bodily integrity. These experiences directly affect the young person and their environment and require
significant social, emotional, neurobiological, psychological or behavioural adaptation.

Peace and Determination

Born on 2 October 1869 -Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi was an Indian lawyer, ANTI-RACIST humanist and political ethicist who employed nonviolent resistance to lead the successful campaign for India’s independence. Some of his sayings:
‘ I will not let anyone walk through my MIND with their dirty feet.
‘Nobody can hurt me without my PERMISSION.’
‘FREEDOM is not worth having if it does not include the freedom to make mistakes.’
‘ A coward is incapable of exhibiting LOVE; it is the prerogative of the brave.’
‘In a GENTLE way, you can shake the WORLD’

His determinations were strong and his ideas firm. He believed in the non-violence movement for collective healing. Simplicity and owning it seem to be some of the traits that made him closer to people who were hurting. Connecting in an authentic way with strangers brought hope and healing to the country and to the wider world. He encouraged ongoing knowledge enhancement.

let’s be aware of our ‘self’, others and surroundings. Let’s encourage peace and kindness. It should not be that difficult! And if we notice some difficulties in finding peace let’s work on it collectively. Hope and peace to all.

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Counselling can help:

Domestic Abuse| Emotional Abuse| Toxic Relationship

If you are feeling overwhelmed by the experiences you are going through due to the toxic and abusive relationship: You don’t have to go through this alone, there is support available!! The impact of domestic abuse can be long-lasting and severe. Domestic abuse has significant psychological consequences for survivors, including anxiety, depression, and suicidal behaviour. Harassments and coercive control are forms of domestic abuse. Non-verbal boundary (SILENCE) can give safety sometimes from offensive and abusive remarks – use this to offer your ‘self’ EMOTIONAL SAFETY.

“Great things are done by a series of small things brought together”- Vincent van Gogh

Vincent Van Gogh was born in 1853 in the Netherlands. He is considered to be one of the greatest painters.  He experienced mental health concerns throughout his short life. He valued humanity, he was compassionate about his art, his love, and his friendship. His perception of what he used to see can be witnessed through his brushstrokes. These quotes give a glimpse into the mind of Vincent Van Gogh.

“One must work and dare if one really wants to live.”

“The heart of man is very much like the sea, it has its storms, it has its tides and in its depths, it has its pearls too”

“It is not the language of painters but the language of nature which one should listen to, the feeling for the things themselves, for reality is more important than the feeling for pictures.”

“How much there is in art that is beautiful if only one can remember what one has seen, one is never empty or truly lonely, and never alone.”

_{The Night Cafe, 1888 by Vincent Van Gogh}

Van Gogh in a letter to his brother Theo, ' Today I am probably going to begin on the interior of the cafe where I have a room, by gas light, in the evening. It is what they call here a cafe de nuit (they are fairly frequent here), staying open all night. Night prowlers can take refuge there when they have no money to pay for a lodging, or are too drunk to be taken in.”
This is a powerful statement he used his brushstrokes to communicate his feelings and emotions- infused his works with his emotions, typical of what was later called Expressionism.The clock, the curtain, the shadow, the tables, the red painted walls is quiet loud, the floor, ordinary tired people, the lamps with too much glow ( a little annoying). Feeligns are described by his strokes, expressions are highlighted by the thinkness of his use of colours. 

Olive Trees, 1889| Bedroom in Arles, 1889| Skull of a Skeleton with Burning Cigarette, 1985-86| The Starry Night, 1889|The Red Vineyard, 1888|

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Nature connection

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27th February 2022

How Connecting with Nature can Elevate your Mood.

It’s great to be outdoors to relieve your mind of any stress, pressure or tension by connecting with your natural surroundings:

1. Allow yourself a pause.
2. Become relaxed
3. Embody
4. Allow room for laughter with walking companions.
5. Take time to reflect.
6. Use grounding techniques where safe to do so.

Be mindful and cautious about your wellbeing. Also be mindful of your pattern on stress as you walk, if walking gives your stress.

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